When did your father stop holding you? When were you too old to cry in your mother’s arms? When did you realize you needed intimacy and not just sex?
It may look like men are just looking for sex, and that’s what they think about all day. That’s not the whole story, men do long to be touch and intimacy with their partners. Hugs and caress do make them feel important, a need for love.
“I have never been touched the way you touch me,” is a common response. I explain I am touching with energy. The entire body needs to be touched and awakened with intimate, caring energy.
Men have been accused of having a one-track mind. Wives interpret every touch as a lead into having sex. So wives stop touching and being intimate for fear they will have to have sex all the time. I see no, thing wrong with having lots of sex. Especially since the older we get, the more sex, intimacy, and touching we need. It keeps us healthy! Men, you need to learn how to be a good lover. Perhaps your wife is using aging as an excuse because of your lack of skill level and sexual technique. You can’t expect her to desire for sex if you can’t even give her orgasm all the time.
Women, if you had more sex with your husband, he would not be so ‘hungry’ and needy all the time. Sex can be something more than just lust and excitement, there are love in it. The feeling when two individuals that can be link together and become one. For men, sex can improve the relationship. Men feel love through sex.
The largest sex organ we have is between our ears. It is our state of mind. If we had a good sexual education, (which most of us never got) we would know the importance sexual intimacy plays in our overall health. Young or mature intimacy is a fundamental factor.
Laughter, playfulness, teasing, touching and talking are the precursor to a happy relationship no matter our age. Few of us have bought into the tale that with age we stop desiring sex. Not true. Those who are sexually active as they age are more vibrant, are years younger than their peers and have the energy to live a more fulfilling life.
Many men have allowed their wives to call the shots when it has come to their sex life after the children are born or at some nondescript point in their life, sex is not talked about or made a priority. Meaning, couples have sex once every month or two or twice a year.
A lot of women suffering sexual dysfunction due to low libido and sexual desire. This happens after marriage and after having their first kids. If both of you are still looking for a good quality of life, why not make sex life great as well. Life is tiring, boring, stress and so on, sex is something that can change your mood and remind you that you still able to have a wonderful life.
I present this question; if you are running a business and you have a greater, healthier knowledge and understanding of the business then your partner, which one should take the lead? Then, why do you not approach your love relationship with the same common sense? Educate yourself! Whichever one of you is inclined to do so and share the knowledge. Be loving with gentle strength. Little to no sex in your relationship is not acceptable. Attentiveness and follow through is what made your business successful. So cross train and apply the same principals. Remember you must talk about what is working and what is NOT working and negotiate for success. We need sex and intimacy to be healthy and live a long, vibrant life.
Every day is an opportunity to be passionately in love, a challenge with the reward being priceless.
